On average we spend almost a quarter of our adult life at work. It can give us a sense of purpose, structure and satisfaction – sometimes however, work can cause stress and frustration and our health and self-esteem can suffer.
Work-related stress accounts for six million days of sick leave each year and can be a cause of despair. Work-related problems can also undermine relationships.
Sometimes, established earlier roles such as being overlooked or being a scapegoat can re-emerge in the workplace leaving us feeling powerless and doomed to failure as we succumb again, in a different setting. Sometimes such feelings are overwhelming and can limit us from realising our full potential.
Symptoms can include - dread of going to work, depression and /or anxiety, poor work/life balance, headaches or muscular tension, feeling overwhelmed and unable to plan, inability to sleep /loss of concentration or bullying or being bullied.
Relationships at work, organisational set-ups, change and work patterns can all play a part. We also often re-enact familiar patterns. If your father was a bully you may feel bullied by your male boss. If you felt second-best to your sister you may find yourself resenting a colleague. Such emerging patterns can be rewarding to examine and release us to be who we want to be.
Counselling can help unravel patterns of relating to people, and show us how to examine our own issues, helping towards a more fulfilling career. Directive ways of working such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) or Transactional Analysis (TA) can be very effective tools to use in the workplace.